To forgive or not to forgive

Forgiveness is a misperception of an event that causes you to overlook the teachings/blessings hidden within the event and instead focus on what the other person did "wrong" and then to feel self righteous by "forgiving" them.

Forgiveness is one level of consciousness.

At a higher level of consciousness, we realise that there are no mistakes, God is in everything, and everything is here to help us to learn and grow.

When we rise to this level of consciousness, we realise that there is nothing to forgive...only stuff to help us become all that we are capable of becoming.

Instead of asking how can I forgive, ask these questions:

• How is what happened a reflection of me?
• What can I learn from what happened that will help me learn and grow?

When you have truly answered these questions, you will see a hidden order that is trying to help you.

Then you will thank God for all events...for they will serve you and you will see their loving purpose.

Love and Light

Lee

15 Rules for women who want a relationship with the best guy in the world.

WARNING: Break these rules and you will end up in a relationship with half the man you started out with...or in no relationship at all.

15 Rules for women who want a relationship with the best guy in the world

1. Forget what we said that you found unpleasant if it was more than 6 months ago. It should be considered inadmissible in today's argument. Better still, all comments that you perceive to be negative become null and void after seven days...so don't torture yourself and us by recycling them.

2. If you want us to act like the soap opera guys, dress like victoria secrets models...and then see what happens.

3. When we say something that can be interpreted in two ways, choose the way that makes you feel the best because that is what we meant to say. And be honest and straight forward in your communication with us..we missed out on the mind reading lessons at school. We can handle the truth much better than something we do not fully understand.

4. It is in your best interest or ours to completely avoid expecting us to frequently do things together that we don't like doing. Do it with your girlfriends, and let us hang with the guys. We'll both enjoy each others company more when we are together.

5. There are many things we do instinctively. Let us look around without feeling threatened. We only look at other women to know how pretty you are...

6. Rub the lamp only when you want the genie to come out. ;)

7. Ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done - never both!

8. Accept that we are just not good at multi tasking. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials. No do not talk to us during a movie and then ask us what is going on!

9. The great explorers didn’t take women along to give them directions. Unless we ask for directions, we can probably figure it out. If you can't hold your tongue..ask us nicely if we would like some help.

10. Women who wear Wonder bras and low-cut blouses or other seductive clothing run a high risk of nullifying their right to complain when various body parts are stared at.

11. When we’ve committed to making a turn in traffic, or make another irretrievable mistake, it is pointless to question our competence... because we are already doing that.

12. Don’t fake it. We’d rather be ineffective than deceived.

13. Let us go into our caves...leave us alone. We'll come back when we are ready, better for whatever we did when we were there, yet also probably just as unsure as you are as to why we needed to go there.

14. Let us enjoy whatever things we cherish about life...however stupid they may seem to you. If you want us to change, help us find things we enjoy even more.

15. Never use the words "always" and "never". (e.g. You never do the washing up. You are always going out with your friends.) That BS exaggeration will make your complaint completely ineffective. Better to say "You are so great at washing up. I guess it must be your turn again soon." and "It's great to see you having so much fun with your friends. I'm going to miss you when you are gone, so I'll think about something special we can do when you get back." Always challenge us constructively.

To summarize, trust us, respect us, support us, challenge us, keep us real and authentic, and help us help you.

Then we will be or become the men you really want in your life.

I was walking around in a Target store, when I saw a Cashier hand this little boy some money back.

The boy couldn't have been more than 5 or 6 years old.

The Cashier said, 'I'm sorry, but you don't have enough money to buy this doll.'

Then the little boy turned to the old woman next to him: ''Granny,

are you sure I don't have enough money?''

The old lady replied: ''You know that you don't have enough money to buy this doll, my dear.''

Then she asked him to stay there for just 5 minutes while she went to look a round. She left quickly.

The little boy was still holding the doll in his hand.

Finally, I walked toward him and I asked him who he wished to give this doll to.

'It's the doll that my sister loved most and wanted so much for Christmas

She was sure that Santa Claus would bring it to her.'

I replied to him that maybe Santa Claus would bring it to her after all, and not to worry.

But he replied to me sadly. 'No, Santa Claus can't bring it to her where she is now. I have to give the doll to my mommy so that she can give it to my sister when she goes there.'

His eyes were so sad while saying this. 'My Sister has gone to be with God. Daddy says that Mommy is going to see God very soon too, so I thought that she could take the doll with her to give it to my sister.''

My heart nearly stopped.

The little boy looked up at me and said: 'I told daddy to tell mommy not to go yet I need her to wait until I come back from the mall.'

Then he showed me a very nice photo of him where he was laughing. He then told me 'I want mommy to take my picture with her so she won't forget me.'

'I love my mommy and I wish she doesn't have to leave me, but daddy says that she has to go to be with my little sister.'

Then he looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very quietly.

I quickly reached for my wallet and said to the boy. 'Suppose we check again, just in case you do have enough money for the doll?''

'OK' he said, 'I hope I do have enough.' I added some of my money to his with out him seeing and we started to count it. There was enough for the doll and even some spare money.

The little boy said: 'Thank you God for giving me enough money!'

Then he looked at me and added, 'I asked last night before I went to sleep for God to make sure I had enough money to buy this doll, so that mommy could give It to my sister. He heard me!''
'I also wanted to have enough money to buy a white rose for my mommy, but I didn't dare to ask God for too much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll and a white rose.''

'My mommy loves white roses.'

A few minutes later, the old lady returned and I left with my basket.

I finished my shopping in a totally different state from when I started.

I couldn't get the little boy out of my mind.

Then I remembered a local news paper article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk man in a truck, who hit a car occupied by a young woman and a little girl.

The little girl died right away, and the mother was left in a critical state. The family had to decide whether to pull the plug on the life-sustaining machine, because the young woman would not be able to recover from the coma.

Was this the family of the little boy?

Two days after this encounter with the little boy, I read in the news paper that the young woman had passed away.

I couldn't stop myself as I bought a bunch of white roses and I went to the funeral home where the body of the young woman was exposed for people to see and make last wishes before her burial.

She was there, in her coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her hand with the photo of the little boy and the doll placed over her chest.

I left the place, teary-eyed, feeling that my life had been changed for ever.. The love that the little boy had for his mother and his sister is still, to this day, hard to imagine.

And in a fraction of a second, a drunk driver had taken all this away from him.

Will you think again before you drink drive??????

Remember  -the smallest actions can make the biggest difference to the lives of others and your own.

An Abundance Still Exists

It occurs to me that if enough people maintain the mindset of abundance and wealth creation during these interesting economic times, we can fight against a full blown depression. At the same time, there is a definite evolution of consciousness in the air, and we can also facilitate that transformation.

The people I know on Facebook are very powerful, influential, well connected individuals, capable of vastly contributing to the evolution of the planet.

I encourage you to use this the Personal Growth Group as a forum for sharing ideas, including what you are working that will contribute to this evolution.

(For example, I am working on a web site to share with the world the secrets of job search masters so that people everywhere who are seeking employment can feel encouraged and empowered to change their circumstances.)

I also encourage you to invite people to join in the discussion. Using face book, that should be a cinch!

We can all create much more as a united whole than we ever could as individuals.

Remember that it has always only ever been a small group of people who have changed with world...so if you like, let's have some fun and see what we can do. :)

Thank you.

PS If you want some inspiration about what is possible, I would strongly recommend a visit to www.ted.com...just watch some videos and you'll get the idea!

So You Want To Be Enlightened?

"You will become enlightened in this world only when the delusionary emotional clouds projected from misunderstood experiences cease to block out the illuminating path which extends from your mind all the way up to the most truthful and powerful recesses of your very soul." Lee Brogden

This is how Personal Growth, focused on your balanced understanding of all experiences, can take you on the journey to enlightenment.
(Inspired by the teachings of my mentor - Dr John F Demartini)

End of 2007 and time to get a few things off my chest!

It’s the end of the year and I feel like a bit of a rant and a rave so here goes.

I used to be a comedian but since president bush took office, there’s been very little to laugh about.

I mean according to Bush, Terrorists and weapons of mass destruction are everywhere. And frankly I can’t go on airplanes any more. I know it’s just a matter of mind over matter - but you see, no matter which way I try to look at it, I don’t like crashing into buildings.

That’s not the only thing that worries me. I’m concerned that if I survive the crash I’ll end up in jail as an accessory to murder.

Either way, terrorists give me the shits. They along with children should be banned. Maybe you don’t agree with me but if you ask any parent, children can be terrorists…particularly 2 year olds. They are capable of destroying whole houses and families in minutes even without weapons of mass destruction.

I wonder why Bush hasn’t declared war on them – I suppose it’s because they’ve only got baby oil.

And he’s from Texas where they don’t seem to like the clear variety as much as they like the black stuff.

You know I’m amazed at some of the things that go on in the world. It’s amazing to me to learn that at one time, many major car manufacturers were making great electric cars. You might not recall them though. Seems car companies, along with the oil companies decided they were not a good idea.

So in an unprecedented move they recalled them – and destroyed them – even though people didn’t want to give them back and they had waiting lists of people wanting them.

Now I’ve got a business background and I’ve gotta say that’s not your typical marketing and sales campaign.

But as stupid as they are, General Motors realized that they were not going to make as much money selling cars that didn’t need some many spare parts, and that lasted longer and so on. So if you’ve still got an electric car, please give it back to them – they are in dire financial straits again and need the money….hmmm I wonder what opportunites there might be to

That’s what really worries me. I mean, a perfectly sensible marketing manager in any other industry is looking at opportunities, market gaps, unmet demand, competitive edge and so on. I guess that’s why they introduced the Hummer to replace the electric car. That’s really what the market wanted. Much more likely to survive a crashing plane than a little electric car. And so cheap to run if you are an oil sheik!

In the Auto industry, in General Motors in particular, they come up with a great car that meets all those needs and then, at great expense recall them and scrap them. I’m not sure which business school they went to, but none of children are going there.

Here in Australia we have a new Prime Minister and a new government after many years without change.

Why did the people decide to change? Seems they didn’t like full employment, low inflation, tax decreases, low interest rates and a steady hand on the helm.

So with a new government in place, I’m sure we’ll see some changes. I mean how can we not? One day you are minister of nothing, and next day you are minister of education, or housing, or immigration of finance.

What gets me is when they swap people’s jobs around. I wish I could learn so much so quickly as there people are asked to do. They must be genuinely quick learners or complete BS’s. Hang on, they are politicians, what am I thinking?

And Yet the new PM seems like a genuinely nice guy – even admitted to going to a strip club. Can’t be nicer than that! I mean I’m sure he didn’t look or anything. Just like President Clinton didn’t inhale.

Remember these politicians are not like ordinary people….. They have great retirement plans and the superannuation to match.

This year has certainly been a year of change. But here’s one thing that stays the same.

Use toilet paper to blow your nose with. Your toilet paper will thank you for it. (think about it)

Till next time – have a great Christmas and remember, Christmas day is actually the celebration for the winter solstice in northern Europe and nothing to do with the birth of Jesus at all. It is the birth of the Sun – not the Son.

So when you look at the star atop your tree, don’t let it fool you!



*Check out the excellent movie called “Who killed the electric car to find out more.” It’s going to boil your blood!

How can we judge our results?

There is a season for sowing and a season for reaping and we cannot expect fruit to grow in the off season. We also cannot pull on the plants to see if they will grow more quickly.

We might normally follow the crowd and judge results by our expectations. When things are not appearing as we think they should, we are ‘shoulding’ all over ourselves. Who are we to judge what should be and should not be.

And yet when our will is aligned with God’s will and we live on purpose, we place can place no importance on the timing of results. Our certainty that results will occur should be so strong and the journey so enjoyable that results are of lesser consequence.

Our immediate peace from taking our true spiritual path is its’ own reward. All that we need is provided for us, and we can recognize its’ form when we are aware and are grateful for all that is – as it is.

That which we need to direct us surrounds us. That which we perceive to be a challenge hides within it the seeds of equivalent opportunity. With this awareness, we can stay connected to the spiritual realm, confident that all things are possible and we can and should expect the miraculous – taking forward steps even when we cannot see around the corner.

Our blossom is eventually replaced by our fruit as our spirit expands and overflows out of us. We create, add value to others, and attract opportunity. As this combines with our grateful nature, we allow abundance to flow into our lives, and it is inevitable that it will flow - in its’ own perfect timing.

The cycle of abundance flowing into and out of our lives starts and increases in flow as long as we do not attempt to block the flow by being greedy, poverty conscious, self righteous, too humble or ungrateful.

We give more, we receive more. We then have more to give and so give more, and then receive more in return. The upward spiral increases in velocity and height.

If you were to stand on the sun, you could not see the earth. If you stood in the middle of the milky way with its’ 100 billion stars you could not see the sun. If you were in the middle of the super-cluster of which our galaxy is a part, you could not even see the milky way.

If God made all that and keeps it organized, it’s fair to assume that he’s got your life in perfect balance too and there are no mistakes.